Saturday, January 26, 2008

Mean Girls

Well, it's started. Last summer, a friend with older girls told me that the "Mean Girls Syndrome" starts around age 4. This is where girls suddenly realize the power of "not including" others and things can turn nasty. Birthday parties become displays of manipulative powers, and playdates can be tricky. Our little Friday playgroup has been chugging along, but we've all noticed a change of events to the kids' dynamic.

Yesterday, it was our turn to host. Annie was coming off a rough day at school- she got into it with another kid because both of them wanted to "sit on the Letter O" during a rainy day recess. So, after coming home- I firmly told her that she needed to be a good host, share her toys and avoid pushing her friends. I didn't even think to mention sisters. So, about 10 minutes into playgroup, with everyone dressed in their best princess finery, Annie turns around to her little sister, pushes her down and says "You can't play- this is only for big girls."

Annie then got a taste of the action after 2 of her friends barred her from entering her clubhouse, and told her "she couldn't play with them." Then Lucy finally found someone of a smaller stature (18 month old Charlotte) to go push and boss around.

Did you know they make a wine called "Mommy's Time Out?" It's not bad.... not bad at all.


laura said...

oh no! Sometimes I'm not sad that I have a boy (not that they don't have their issues too! LOL). Here's hoping order is restored for the weekend :-)

PS - what are you doing up at 4:32 in the morning!?!?!?!

Vanessa said...

I don't envy the growing up process for little girls and you couldn't pay me enough money to go back to high school again. Girls can just be mean!